Friday, May 30, 2008

UPDATE: Kirk Coiner Wants To Pay LESS

Before I give the newest update I would like to say that since my original post on Kirk Coiner I have found out many things. One of them is that he tells people that he gave up parental rights to my son a long time ago when in reality, he's never even asked to do so. My son thought he was beyond being hurt by this asshole but hearing that really did hit him. How would you feel if your "father" lied to people that you weren't his anymore? Only a heartless scumbag can do something like that.

I also was in touch with Wifey3 several times through MySpace and in those messages she informed both myself and the mother of Kirk's other child that she was working on getting the kids' payments and that Kirk cared sooooo much for his kids. Wifey2 (I won't use her name out of respect for her. I actually LIKE her! lol) even went so far as to allow Kirk one last chance at contact with his daughter. In return she got a bullshit letter from the WIFEY, nothing from Kirk, and never heard from him again. The daughter is several years younger than my son (11 years old at present I believe) so can you imagine the devestation she must have felt? Thankfully her mother found a wonderful man a long time ago that is a great father to her.

So while some might think I'm just a vengeful bitch the truth is that I do this because it's not me being hurt but my child. It's not Wifey2 being hurt but her daughter. These two kids never did a damn thing to this man. They never abandoned him, hurt him, or showed him that everything else in the world was more important than him.

In the beginning all they (and we mothers) wanted from Kirk was for him to be a father for his children. When we realized that wasn't going to happen then all we asked was that he help pay to raise his children. When that didn't work we pretty much both gave up on ever getting anything from him (money or care for his children).

I for one am tired of custodial parents having to give up and let these assholes just walk away. Our courts and legal system don't care about these children either so in a way they are just as bad as the deadbeat. In my experience, state child support offices work for the deadbeats and not the children. They are more worried about contacting the deadbeat ninety million times and letting them lie than getting anything for our kids. How do we change this?

The only way I know of is to write the Senators, Congressmen, and Legislators of the states our cases are in hoping that one of them will care. The other thing we can do is fill the internet as I do with my posts. I can not be sued for them because anything I post can be proven either in writing or firsthand witness willing to sign an affidavit. I have not posted Kirk Coiner's hometown, address, phone number, cell phone number, or Wifey3's cell number even though I have all of the above. My ass is covered so my voice will be heard. Not for myself but for my son.

Now to the News I received yesterday...

How does one pay LESS when they really don't even pay anything at all? Can anyone tell me that?

I received notification that Kirk Coiner has filed for a modification of child support. Obviously the nothing and next to nothing he has paid over the last few years was too much to him. Yes, Kirk Coiner feels that his son isn't worth the $350 a month that he is SUPPOSE to pay. How's that for kicking your own blood in the teeth?

This is the second time Kirk Coiner Has done this. The first time he asked that the $140 a month he was suppose to pay be lowered. Yes, LOWERED.

The funny thing is that the least Kirk Coiner can claim he makes is minimum wage. I was told today by my support case worker that at minimum wage he will be ordered to pay.... are you ready?... $350!!!! ahahahahahaha

Eat that you disgusting pathetic piece of shit!

Thursday, May 29, 2008

About A BOY...Kirk Coiner Is Still A Deadbeat

Yes, I'm such a "bitch" that I'm making sure no one forgets that Kirk Coiner is a deadbeat who owes over $20,000 in back child support for his son who is now 17 years old. Oh and even though Kirk Coiner has our mailing address he sent his son NOTHING again for his birthday this year. No card, no gift, no get fucked I don't give a shit....nothing. Nice.

Kirk Coiner can take hunting trips, fishing trips, etc but he can't pay steady support. Kirk Coiner can afford internet service (he was on MySpace last night AND today) but he can't pay support OR send his kid a card for his birthday. Way to be a man there.

The reason I keep making these posts by the way is because they show up on a Google search and since I leave the MySpace profile and blog open, anyone who is considering hiring Kirk Coiner or anything else can read all about him. Oh and no, Lacey, him getting a job does not mean support for me. It just means more money for him because he doesn't use any of it on his son so I really don't give a shit if I screw up his chance at some job.

I also do it because I'm tired of deadbeat dads who go on with their lives never helping their kids or taking care of them. Then they get with these stupid women who don't blame their husbands for being deadbeats but blame the MOTHER because she just wants help raising her child. Yes, to these women it's our fault that their husband is a deadbeat asshole. It's our fault we just want said deadbeat to help raise his child. In their eyes we should just leave the deadbeat alone and let him live his life.


Kirk Coiner's wife is like this. She throws a fit if her child support for her three kids is even a little late and even took her ex to court demanding her money but I'M a bitch for wanting the same thing. Anyone else think this is pretty fucking stupid?

I guess I don't get this kind of thinking because there are times I even write the checks for my husband's child support to his ex. That's money we could surely use BUT it's also money he owes to help raise his daughter.

That's what a DECENT person does. That's what someone who isn't SELFISH does. That's what someone who is RESPONSIBLE does. They don't fucking whine because the money isn't going to their own children.

Yeah Lacey Coiner, I'm talking to you. And if you two think you deserve a pat on the back for ALMOST paying a full child support payment almost two months ago...think again. I'll pat you on the back when something like that happens more than once a YEAR!

*by the way, I typed out "Kirk Coiner" so many times because I would hate for Google to get lost.


Monday, May 12, 2008

Getting To Know You....

getting to knowwwww allll abouttttt youuuuuu. Sorry, couldn't help myself there. *smile*

I have decided that in order to get myself blogging regularly again that I am joining in on MommyFest 2008. The nice thing is that they have memes, prizes, and post ideas for me so all I have to do is type the post and they do all the hard work. YAY lazy me!!!

So the first thing I'm suppose to do is tell you a little about myself. Well if you want to learn ALOT about me then you are free to read my 100 Useless Facts About Moi. If you only want to know the non-gorey soso stuff then here goes...

~ I go by Jo but my full name is Jolene. Yes, my egg donor named me after that gawd awful Dolly Parton song. No, I don't like it when complete strangers sing it to me. Yes, I could possibly hurt you if you sing it anyway.

~ I have incurable cancer. Chemotherapy and radiation have no affect on it so we just play a waiting game until the tumors are big enough to operate on. Right now I have tumors in both sides of my neck, under both arms (armpits), in both lungs, and one in my right breast. I've already had several tumors removed from my neck and two from/with my adrenal glands. It's really not as awful as it sounds. At least I have time and that's more than so many others.

~ My oldest two children and myself have a rare disorder called MEN2a (multiple endocrine neoplasia type 2a). Basically it causes medullary thyroid cancer, adrenal tumors, and several other small noncancerous things. We caught the thyroid cancer early in the kids and they are now cured of it but mine had already spread so I can not be cured. I also lost my adrenal glands due to tumors and have to live on medication for the rest of my life.

~ I'm 6' tall and I really am a natural blonde. My natural haircolor is dirty blonde so of course there are times I will dye it a lighter color but all in all I'm a real blonde. Many people find that hard to believe because I have really dark brown eyebrows. No clue why and not much I can do about it. *laugh*

~ I had my first child when I was just barely 16 years old. I also got married for the first time at sixteen thanks to our families. We lasted two years and then the deadbeat became the scumbag that we all know and hate today. His name is Kirk Alexander Coiner by the way and he owes my son over $21,000 in back child support. He whines about how he can't pay it yet he can buy game systems, computer parts, pay for internet, go bass fishing quite often, and afford a truck sooooooooooooo.....

~ I love being a mom and I have three really great kids. My husband has been there for the oldest two for eight years now and I am so thankful. My two teenagers are so awesome and they give me very little trouble. Thanks to them the worst things I have to deal with are mouthiness, not doing chores, and my daughter being mad at me because I won't let her wear a bikini. Damn, life is good!

That's all I can think of right now. As I said, you can learn pretty much everything else about me by reading my 100 Things post. You are also more than welcome to ask me questions and visit my other blogs...

Reviews- LWH Reviews

Keep coming back throughout the week for more posts.


Saturday, May 10, 2008

Playing MeMe Catch-Up

I'm embarrassed to say that over the last few months I've been tagged for quite a few memes but with things as busy as they've been I haven't been able to post them. So this is the beginning of MeMe Catch-Up. Sit back and enjoy. *snort*

Alexandra over at Not A Day Goes By has tagged me a few times now so I will start with her. Also, if you've ever tagged me for a MeMe that I didn't do please feel free to email me and let me know. I forget things alot so it wasn't on purpose.

Rules are:

1. Link to your tagger and post these rules on your blog.

2. Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog, some random, some weird.

3. Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blogs.

4. Let them know they are tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

~ I'm afraid of deep water. Swimming in the ocean or deep end of the pool are not options for me. I freeze up for some reason even though I'm actually a fairly good swimmer.

~ I met my husband in an AOL chat room. We just celebrated our eight year anniversary on May 6th.

~ Even though I'm left-handed I write like a right-hander so anything I write ends up being straight up and down instead of slanted like other people's.

~ I have claustrophobia so badly that I actually run in and out of my closet because the small space bothers me. I absolutely can NOT go into a basement or attic because they bring on severe panic attacks.

~ I just found out tonight that I like Smirnoff Ice Wild Grape. It is sooooooooo yummy and so far it's not making me sick. Of course, I'm only able to drink one bottle of it and then stop but still... I'm lovin' it!! Tastes like grape soda. ;)

~ In the eight years my husband and I have been together I have never really decorated a house. I've never painted the walls, hung up pictures, or anything else. No clue why except that maybe I'm afraid we're just going to move again (which we did alot the first six years).

~ I'm a good faker in the fact that I tell everyone this cancer is no big deal and doesn't bother me when in reality I'm scared as hell because I know it's going to spread to my bones and I will die a painful fairly quick death and there is nothing no one can do. Sometimes I cry over it when Hubs and the kids aren't around.

I don't know how odd, different, or cool any of those were but that's what popped into my head so I typed it out. Hopefully you learned something new about me with this. I'm not going to tag anyone with this one because I know lots of people have done it. If you want to do this then let me know and I'll put a link to you in this post so people can read yours.

Thank you Alexandra for tagging me. It's nice to know I'm still remembered even though I can't post as much as I use to. *smile*

Tomorrow is Mother's Day so to all the mommies out there... HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!

Tuesday, May 06, 2008

Happy Anniversary Babe!!

Today is mine and Hubby's EIGHT year anniversary! Yay us!! It has been a very long hard eight years and I honestly never expected us to make it this far. Our relationship is probably one of the oddest ones I've ever known of. Hubs and I are sarcastic people by nature. In fact, I think it's ingrained into our DNA. I swear, neither one of us can go through a single day without some smartass comment to the other one. People who aren't use to us might think we are arguing or being mean but in truth we are having fun seeing who can come up with "a good one". Odd I know but it works. I think I would have gotten bored long ago if Hubs didn't verbally spar with me.

Anyway- he works graveyard shift and I had my first appointment with a new rheumatologist today so we really didn't get to celebrate but he gave me a perfect card and wrote about the same memories that I wrote in HIS card. *snort* I also wrote him a heartfelt letter but he won't get it until morning because I'm a perfectionist when it comes to stuff like that and had to rewrite it three times. *sigh*

I did get to buy him some jellybeans though does that count? Even though I'm suppose to be on a no sugar diet I celebrated the day with a nice big slice of chocolate cake from Mario's (an Italian restaurant in ABQ). It was Heaven wrapped in chocolate I tell ya!

You might be surprised to learn that Hubs and I met on AOL in a chatroom. We started out as just friends and after six months of talking on the phone we knew there was something more there. I think it took us so long because I had just gone through a divorce in 1999 that tore me up pretty badly and he was on the tail end of a divorce himself (my ex wasn't a bad guy just too much of a mama's boy and we were both selfish. Hub's ex was just a fucking psycho!). In the end it all worked out though and eight years later here we are.

I guess it's a good thing that wasn't around back then because we might have never found each other! We are so different we NEVER would have been matched up! haha!

So again, Happy Anniversary Babe and here's to the next eight years.

Sunday, May 04, 2008

If You Cut Me Do I Not Bleed?

Okay so maybe that's not exactly the right way to describe the past month but I'll be damned if it isn't close! Yes, I've been a bad blogger again but I actually have a valid excuse this time. You see, I had surgery on April 15th to remove that lymph node in my neck that was pressing on my artery. That day things went well and I was in and out in no time at all. It's the almost two weeks AFTER the surgery that were pure unadulterated hell!!

I won't bore you with all the details but let's just say I got fucked over by a doctor AGAIN. Well actually a surgeon but who am I to squabble over something like that. *eyeroll* I ended up with a HUGE FUCKING ABSCESS in my neck where they took the lymph node out. The really fun part was that my surgeon looked at my ever swelling neck twice and still told me it was normal despite it being hot to the touch, hard, and growing like a whole other planet on the side of my neck.

The only way I even got proof that something wasn't right was by waking up at 3am on Big B's birthday to my pillow and entire left side of my neck covered in blood and pus (it's okay to say "eww" I did) with a gaping hole where the abscess had busted a few stitches to get out. Yeah, it was great lemme tell ya.

I ended up in Urgent Care where they did an X-ray, took a culture, cleaned the hole out, stuck half of a swab into my neck, packed the hole with gauze, covered half my neck with a gauze bandage, put me on antibiotics plus steroids (as if I needed more of those!), and then got to repeat the 80 mile round trip every day for four more days. Ugh, fuckin' bullshit!!

I am very thankful to Urgent Care though for taking such good care of me and the funny part was that the doctor that saw me the first day was the same one who saw MonkeyBoy when he had his MRSA! She walked into the room, looked at me like she knew me from somewhere, and I told her "Don't worry, I won't hate you and call you a mean doctor". She immediately knew who I was and said she still felt horrible about how traumatized he was. I told her that it was alright that he had actually told me to make sure I got "his" doctor because she would take care of me. LOL

There was a good part to all this though. I am now thankful for the extensive nerve damage in my neck (which is much much worse after this last surgery on the left side) because I couldn't feel any pain from the abscess, couldn't feel them poking or prodding the wound, and I haven't felt them repack it at all. So at least I've been saved some pain for once and that makes me happy.

On Thursday they began sending a nurse out to repack the wound for me because with the limited range of motion I have right now and the return of my vertigo I was deemed not safe to go plowing through society. Damn killjoys! *snicker* I'm very proud to say that over the weekend Big B was the one who packed the wound for me and he did such an awesome job! The nurse showed him how and that boy has been anal as hell about keeping things sterile while he's caring for my wound. Now if only I could get that to carry over to his room I'd be set. *wink*

The abscess is almost healed now and my neck is the size it's suppose to be again. When they did the surgery they cut me lower than they said they would so instead of under my jawline I have a new scar right across the left side of my neck. That bothers me but nothing I can do about it now. People already stare as it is so I guess one more scar doesn't much matter at this point. I just miss that tall beautiful blonde I use to be but I guess this is one way to teach my kids several lessons firsthand...

1- Don't stare at people just because they may look different. It hurts them just the same as if you called them a "freak".

2- Beauty really is only skin deep and no matter how much you alter or scar the outside there is still beauty inside.

3- Never count on looks to get you through life because they can be gone in the blink of an eye.

All this cancer crap has taught them to be more understanding and kind towards people so no matter what I know this is not all in vain. If me being carved up like a Thanksgiving turkey means my kids learn to respect other human beings no matter what they look like then it's worth it. I'll take this one for the team. *smile*